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How being a Do-It-Yourself Mom has changed my life

9 YEAR OLD: “I need my laundry done for tomorrow”

ME: “Do it yourself.”

5 YEAR OLD: “Can you get me a snack?”

ME: “Do it yourself.”

2 YEAR OLD: “I need my shoes put on.”

ME: “Do it yourself.”

BABY: “I need my diaper changed.”

ME: “Do it yourself.”

 

Alright, alright. The last one is a little far fetched (although I can’t say I haven’t tried getting her to change her own diaper). In reality my kids are pretty independent. This is for a couple reasons:

  1. Instilling independence in children at a young age will encourage them to be individual thinkers, confident people, and self-sufficient.
  2. I don’t have time, energy, or patience to do everything for everybody.

There’s enough on my plate. My duties as a Mom take up a big chunk of my day; including, but not limited to: driving kids to school, playing with my toddler, feeding my baby, cleaning feces off floors (ya……), booking appointments and making dinner. These are just some of my duties as a Mom. This doesn’t include the things I need to do to take care of myself, like eating, showering, and spending quality time by myself–which are just as important, Mama!

You MUST delegate tasks. There’s way too much pressure for one ol’ person–if you don’t relieve some of that pressure you’re bound to blow!

I’m certainly not suggesting that you get your toddler to scrub toilets (she wouldn’t do it properly anyway, probably), but giving your kids age appropriate chores fosters their desire for independence, while giving you a break on what you need to accomplish. Alright, well, in some cases, like the toddler doing laundry, you’re mostly allowing them to have the satisfaction of helping because their help actually makes your job a little harder…but their sense of independence is important, too!

But, HOW is this done???

Kids aren’t exactly eager to finish chores, even those specific to their ages. Would you happily do all your daily duties if there wasn’t promise of a glass of wine and some #Netflixandchill time at the end of the day? I probably would not.

I use bribery, or, as some would say “incentive”. For example: my kids get their t.v. time from 5:00 until 6:00. That’s when I’m making dinner and I need my hangry, unreasonable children out of my hair so I can burn their food in peace. I let them know when it’s 4:00 and tell them the chores that they’re expected to do. They have one hour from that warning to get their chores done. It shouldn’t take them an hour to do what they need to do, but, kids. If they dilly dally they end up going over into their t.v. time. If they do what they need to do they can relax and watch a show! Mom’s happy and everyone wins!

Everyone has their own way of encouraging their kids to do chores. What are yours?

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