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How to dress baby for winter

As the cold weather approaches you’re going to need to know how to dress baby for winter!

Learning how to dress baby is yet just another one of those things that are in that manual that we DON’T get when your baby is born. However, there is a bit of a science to it to make sure that your sweet bundle is warm enough in these colder months.

How to dress baby for winter

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Step 1:

Dress your baby as you would any other day. If you’re putting baby in a dress make sure they have thick tights underneath.

Pants and a onesie are ideal (with long sleeves if it’s super cold) when you’re going to dress baby for winter as they are warmest and easiest to have under a bunting suit.

Make sure your baby has socks on! You lose a lot of heat through your feet and with a baby it most certainly is not neat (okay, I forced the rhyme on that one a bit. What I’m saying is: keep your baby’s feet warm so their body will stay warm). The same goes for a toque: you lose a lot of heat through your head, too.

Learning how to dress baby for winter is another one of those things that's in the manual that we DON'T get when they're born. Here's how to do it!

Step Two:

If it’s not terribly cold outside you can throw a jacket, pair of booties, and a toque on your baby before going out. When they’re in the car seat you can have a breathable blanket on them, too, which will keep them nice and warm.

Check-in periodically to make sure they don’t get too warm as the car heats up. In fact, if you’re able to and time allows try and warm up the car before you put your baby in so that there’s no need for extra blankets.

If it IS terribly cold outside and/or you’re going to be taking your baby out of the car seat you’re going to want to increase the warm clothing you put on baby.

When you dress baby for winter it’s nice to have a bunting suit for super cold days or days you’re going to be spending a lot of time outdoors. These suits range from warm fleece to ones filled with down. Some of them can be really bulky, so avoid those if you’re putting baby in the car seat or stroller, however, if you do have a bulky one you can put your baby in it when you arrive at your destination or you can get one specifically made for car seats.

Most of the time these little bunting suits will have the ability to overlap the material on the feet and hands. This is a great option to keep little extremities warm. If yours doesn’t have that option make sure to put your baby in some booties and mittens, as well as a hat.

Things to remember:

-When you’re dealing with how to dress baby for winter remember that there are a lot of layers involved. If you go somewhere indoors peel back one of those layers so that baby doesn’t overheat. The same goes for in the car, especially if you’re traveling long distances.

Babywearing will help with keeping baby (and you) warm. Babies seem to be heat generators, so keeping them nice and close will keep everyone feeling nice and toasty. You can find add-ons that go nicely with brands like Ergo that attach directly to the Ergo and act as a jacket or blanket to keep both of you protected from the elements.

-Bring a blanket with you wherever you go. You may think you’ve got baby dressed warm and snug but then a super cold wind hits. It’s nice to have an extra layer that you can put in the car seat or wrap around your baby in the carrier.

Don’t let cold weather deter you from heading outside with your baby. It’s important for them and for you to get out of the house, even when inclement weather hits. If you’re looking for tips on how to take your baby outdoors to do activities check out Little Adventures Co. for tips from two moms who do it all the time!

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This is how to make a sitz bath

You’ve probably heard of a sitz bath being part of your postpartum care routine, but you’re also probably wondering what the heck it actually is.

Allow me to explain:

Your perineum is the space between your vaginal opening and your anus. It’s a sensitive spot (as to be expected) and is also the most ravaged spot of your body as you push your baby out of your vagina. While your perineum is meant to stretch to accommodate for large things going out (i.e. baby) or large things going in (i.e. *insert raised eyebrows and knowing smile*) it is apt to tear.

You can prepare your perineum by following the guidelines in this post but even then you may suffer some pretty severe tears, or, at the very least, discomfort from the significant stretching that was required to push that baby of yours out.

Your perineum is a rockstar and after the birth of your baby it needs an extra little bit of tender loving care. Enter: Sitz bath!

Who needs a sitz bath?

Well, I mean, ANYONE really can use a sitz bath. It’s meant to clean the perineum and provide relief from any discomfort, itching, or irritation. Some folks who have just given birth may opt to use one, as well as someone who’s enjoying the wonder that is haemorrhoids.

What do you need for a sitz bath?

There are very few things that you need for a sitz bath, however, it’s nice to have it prepared before baby comes so that you have these things ready and available for the exact time that you need them:

-clean bathtub (get your partner or support person to give it a good scrub before you go in. Use a little bit of bleach to make sure that you’ve killed all bacteria that may be in there. The last thing you’re going to need right now is an infection!)

or

-sitz bath toilet kit (that you can find in this post)

-warm water

-additives to the bath (optional) that you can purchase here or make on your own using ingredients such as witch hazel, calendula, lavender essential oil, epsom salts, salt, chamomile.

How to have a sitz bath

You've heard of a sitz bath. Do you know why they're so awesome and how easy they are to make in the comfort of your own home?

First things first: this is your self-care time! You’re taking care of the lovely perineum of yours but you can also turn this into a pleasant experience for yourself.

  1. Hand the baby off to someone else if you are able to do so. If not, bring baby into the bathroom and either lay them on a blanket beside the bathtub or in a bassinet-wherever you can reach them if you need to and however you feel most comfortable.
  2. Fill the bathtub about 1/3 of the way full with warm water. Avoid making this too hot or you’ll probably feel some discomfort.
  3. Add the various herbs if you’ve chosen to do so.
  4. Sit in the bathtub for about 20 minutes. Add some more warm water if you feel like it’s getting too cold for you.
  5. Once you get out make sure to pat dry (don’t rub….ouch!!) or wear your birthday suit for a while and dry off au naturel.
  6. Do this 3-4 times a day unless you’re finding it irritating to your perineum

While a sitz bath can promote healing in your postpartum body if you aren’t enjoying them try and find another way to let your body heal. The key to healing your perineum is to make sure that it’s clean, dry, and not irritated. There are many ways that you can do this so a sitz bath is only one option.

Did you use sitz baths after your birth? What were your favourite things to add? Please share recipes in the comments below to share with fellow new parents!

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7 Reasons you should wait for sex after childbirth

Chances are you’re not going to feel like having sex after childbirth for quite some time.

Some partners understand this (particularly the ones that witnessed a vaginal birth, while others may be having a more difficult time coming to terms with waiting 6 weeks. Not that you need to justify yourself but there are some physical and mental reasons that you can fill them in on.

Most healthcare providers are going to tell you to wait 4-6 weeks until having sex after childbirth and these are the reasons why:

7 Reasons to wait for sex after childbirth

Vaginal discomfort

Okay, so you just pushed a BABY out of your vagina. That means that you pushed a watermelon-sized head out of a loonie sized vagina. #proudcanadianwoman

Even if you didn’t have any sort of tearing or episiotomy you probably are feeling a little stretched thin-yes, literally and figuratively, but we’ll get to the figurative part later. Your labia has been stretched and is likely feeling a little tender. It will take a few weeks for everything to be a little less sensitive and may need some being left alone during that time.

Stitches

If you’ve had a cesarean birth you will have stitches or staples in your lower abdomen. If you’ve had a tear or episiotomy you likely have stitches in your perineum.

Neither of these healing wounds should be irritated until, well, they’re healed. Depending on the severity of the wound this will take at least two weeks.

Infection

You've been told to wait for 6 weeks to have sex after childbirth, but do you know the reasons why?

Before approximately the 6 week mark your cervix is still dilated from childbirth. This leaves your body open to infection that may occur from a penis or other objects being inserted into the vagina. You’ll know that your cervix is still open if you’re bleeding or by going to see your healthcare professional for a check-up.

Be careful with taking chances on infection; truthfully, the last thing you’re going to want to deal with on top of your healing body and a newborn baby is a vaginal infection.

General body discomfort

It may seem logical that your pain and discomfort is going to be centralized to your vagina or surgical site. Unfortunately, it doesn’t end there.

Your entire body is going to be experiencing a world of change: back pain from 9 million months of pregnancy, excess fluid, shoulder pain from nursing, aching breasts, sore feet, tired body, etc. etc. etc..

You’ve just had a workout of a lifetime and you may not be up to a romp session.

This is 100% okay.

Discharge

You, my friend, have a lot of stuff coming out of your vagina. Blood, mucus, uterine tissue will come out strong for about 10 days after birth and then taper off somewhat until around the 6-week mark when it stops.

This is your body’s way of expelling all of the now unnecessary fluid, so if you have sex after childbirth when this discharge is being, well, discharged it will be quite akin to having sex while on your period.

*One thing to note is that the smell of the discharge after childbirth is different than when you have your period-it’s stronger and just plain different. This can be hard to get around when trying to get in the mood.

**One thing to note on the one thing to note is that if your discharge is foul-smelling you should see your healthcare provider to rule out an existing infection.

Decreased sex drive

Ohhhhh hormones, you bastards.

Your body is a tornado of hormones from the remaining pregnancy ones to the breastfeeding ones to the childbirth ones. What a mix.

Oh! Ya! I almost forgot to mention the inevitable sleep loss that you can factor in, too, and right there you’ve got yourself the makings of a (probably) decreased sex drive. It can also lead to decreased lubrication regardless of if you’re aroused or not. You may not have had to use lubricant before but having a water-based one on hand now is a good idea.

Changes in breasts

Breastfeeding causes higher levels of prolactin and lower levels of estrogen in the nursing parent. This can, like above, lead to a lower sexual desire.

Some folks find it very uncomfortable to have their breasts touched in a sexual manner when they’re breastfeeding while others find it to be a turn on. This is a conversation that you and your partner should have before resuming sexual activity.

For breastfeeding parents, there may be leaking or even spraying (!) during an orgasm. Some partners find this arousing while others find it unnerving. If it’s something that’s not for either of you it can be a quick fix with a nursing bra and nursing pads.

Time

You just fed the baby. They’re snug as a bug in a rug and you’re certain they’re going to be asleep for at least a couple hours while you and your partner(s) give this sex after childbirth thing a go.

You do a half happy, half sexy dance, take off your clothes, start getting frisky, and….WAHHHHHHHHHHH!

Baby wakes up and the mood is killed.

It takes a few weeks to really get into the groove of having a newborn. That’s not to say that at the 6 week mark your baby is suddenly entirely predictable, but you’ll likely have a bit more awareness to their patterns.

Emotional readiness

There are so many variables when it comes to a person’s sexuality, especially after they’ve given birth.

It’s by far one of the most vulnerable, exposed times in a person’s life and sometimes that can take some coming back from. Particularly in cases where there’s been trauma during birth, it can be very challenging for people to want to open themselves back up to that vulnerability.

Getting back into having sex after childbirth is something that should be given great care and consideration. Your first priority is making sure that your body is healthy and able to engage in sex after childbirth-you can be sure of this by allowing yourself time to heal and by checking in with your healthcare professional for medical clearance before jumping your partner(s).

When you do decide that you’re ready try and keep these few things in mind.

  1. Begin with an open dialogue about how and when to resume sex after childbirth. Make sure that each partner is on the same page and comfortable with plans going forward.
  2. Lower expectations. If things don’t go smoothly the first time give it some time before trying again.
  3. Start small. Try masturbation first to become re-acquainted with your body. Then, finger penetration with your partner a couple of times. Then, give penetrative sex a go when you’re ready.

Have fun! Oh, and now that you’re a parent you can go ahead and give “7 best sex positions for parents” a read. You’re going to need to know these.

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Things you need to know about your postpartum body

It’s possible that your idea of what a postpartum body should look like has been somewhat skewed by media and societal standards of where your physical appearance should be after you’ve had a baby.

Remember that Barbie that had a pregnant belly you could attach and then take it off after she had the baby and that was that? That’s not what having a postpartum body is like AT ALL.

We’re here to talk about the nitty-gritty of what having a baby is like, and here’s what a postpartum body really might experience (take note, Matel)!

Things you need to know about your postpartum body

Your breasts might be HUGE

If you thought your breasts grew while you were pregnant just wait until those things are filled with milk!

It can get uncomfortable, especially in the first few days, so avoid wearing a bra while your milk is coming in (a form-fitting tank top is ideal so you can still put breast pads in if necessary). Use cool compresses to alleviate any pain, and keep feeding that baby to:

a) release pressure in your breasts

b) get that milk flow going

Find out more tips and tricks on breastfeeding here!

It will take a while for your belly to flatten out

During pregnancy, your uterus has grown around 500 times its original size!! Go ahead and read that sentence again…your uterus has grown around 500 times its original size. While a good ol’ fundal massage will help it contract so it can start to return to its dainty little stature it will still take some time for that to happen.

You may look like you’re still in the last trimester of your pregnancy for a few weeks after you have your baby*. Be patient; this will go down. It’s all part of the joy of the postpartum body!

*Just a note here: it may look like you’re in the first trimester of your pregnancy for a few years/forever after you have your baby. The skin around your belly has stretched and it can be extremely difficult to become taut again. A lot of folks experience this, so you are 100% not alone on this.

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You’re going to have some pain

So, there’s the obvious pain of “my vagina or lower abdomen has been opened and now must heal”, the lesser-known after-birth cramping (which gets worse with each baby and you should honestly have some midwife/doc approved pain relief handy for those babies), and also the general aches and pains from your body’s latest endeavor of getting a baby out of it.

Your abdominal muscles have gotten stretched which will affect your back. That, combined with the extra weight you’ve had on your front, can cause back pain. Be mindful of how you’re sitting when you’re feeding your baby, especially if you’re breastfeeding. Proper posture can help alleviate some muscle pain. If it doesn’t and you’re still suffering it may be wise to see a chiropractor or massage therapist.

There’s also new pain of holding your baby. Bicep curls done in pregnancy would come in hand here. Didn’t do any of those? No worries; you’ll be lugging around a tiny, adorable weight for the next 3 years so those muscles will definitely come!

You may experience skin changes

You may have noticed some stretch marks on your breasts, belly, and/or thighs as you went through your pregnancy. While those will never fully go away they will fade in time. Immediately after having your baby they may seem quite dark but as they fade they’ll turn a silvery colour.

If you had a linea nigra line that will entirely fade in time, although it may take a number of weeks.

You may also find that you’re getting some acne! Hormones combined with absolute exhaustion (trust me, washing your face might be the last thing you even think about at night) are a perfect storm for a pimple or two.

**You’re going to need some pretty heavy-duty under-eye concealer now that you’re a parent. You can use some of that on your blemish if you so desire!

Hair loss?!

Your postpartum body experience wouldn’t be complete without some lovely postpartum hormones to inject a little bit of panic in your life, would it?

While it’s not super common (around 10% of folks who have just given birth) hair loss is a thing in the postpartum period. Fortunately, most of this hair is excess hair that you would have had from hormones in your pregnancy but it’s still unnerving nonetheless.

Your hair loss should only last for about 3 months, but if it continues in full force beyond that it’s worthwhile checking in with the doc.

You may be constipated

You spent hours trying to push a baby out and now you get to relive (almost) the same thing!

The first postpartum poo is a bit of a doozy, and the few afterward can be pretty uncomfortable. The best advice: give your baby to someone else while you undertake this task (and no, this does not count as “alone time”). Eat plenty of fibrous foods and drink LOADS of water. This will help things go a little more smoothly.

Speaking of constipation…hemorrhoids may be an issue

There are a few things that we forget talk about in pregnancy and hemorrhoids are one of them. They’re nasty, in all senses of the word.

You can prevent them/minimize them by doing things that you do to prevent constipation but sometimes they get out of hand and you’ll need to talk to your healthcare provider about it about some potential medications to help you relieve your discomfort.

You might pee your pants (more than usual)

Your pelvic floor muscles and bladder have been absolutely thrashed during your pregnancy. You may find that things are a little looser than normal down there. Coughing, sneezing, laughing…they all may cause a little dribble which can be more than a pain in the butt (even more so than the hemorrhoids you’re also dealing with).

Keep on top of your kegels. Ask your healthcare provider if you’re doing them properly-because there IS a correct way to do them. If you haven’t noticed an improvement by around a month maybe give pelvic floor physiotherapy a try. They can give you all the strategies you need to be able to build those muscles back up and save many a change of pants.

You need to watch for a few things:

You’re busy taking care of your beautiful new baby, but don’t forget about yourself, too.

If you notice any of these symptoms that www.parents.com indicates call your healthcare provider as soon as possible:

  • Chills or fever of 100.5 degrees or higher
  • Sudden heavy bleeding (soaking more than one pad an hour) or lots of large clots
  • Foul-smelling vaginal discharge
  • Severe pain or redness surrounding, or discharge from, a C-section incision or an episiotomy
  • Fainting, nausea, or vomiting
  • Frequent urination or burning with urination
  • Constipation that lasts three days or more
  • Swelling, redness (or red streaks), and pain in your breasts, accompanied by fever
  • A tender, swollen, or red area anywhere in your leg or calf
  • Persistent headaches or vision changes
  • Excessive swelling of the face, fingers, or feet
  • Intense sadness or feeling that you can’t care for yourself or your baby

The most important thing you need to know about your postpartum body…

You may not love it. We’re pretty inundated with “love your postpartum body”, “beautiful postpartum body”, “look what your postpartum body does”, etc. Yes, there is obviously validity to this. Your body housed and nourished a child, brought that child into the world, possibly continues to nourish that child, holds that child, and cares for that child. Yes, it’s incredible.

However, there’s often a dismissal of the fact that your body has likely experienced some significant physical changes which may be difficult for you to become used to, difficult for you to love.

This is okay.

You can love what your postpartum body has done, but not love your postpartum body. Make sure you take care of it all the same, but if you’re not fully comfortable with the extra weight on your tummy or the stretch marks on your breasts that’s okay.

And, you’re not alone.

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What to expect: Fundal Massage

Midwife: “Okay, I’m going to give you a fundal massage now.”

Oooh a massage right after delivering your baby? Sounds absolutely divine, right?!

It’s not.

The word “massage” being paired with the word “fundal” is about as misleading as “FREE!!! (with $6000 purchase).

(Hey, before you read on please remember that I am not a medical healthcare professional. I obtain this knowledge from my personal experiences and research that I do. If you have questions or concerns please refer to your healthcare provider. This is meant to be as an awareness and starting point of education.)

What is a fundal massage?

Other than a super uncomfortable assault on your poor tummy immediately after birthing your placenta, a fundal massage is a firm pressing and “massaging” of your fundus (the top of your uterus) to get rid of blood, clots, and everything else that needs to not be in your body after birth. If this is not done your chance of postpartum hemorrhage (excessive bleeding after birth) is increased.

Your midwife or doctor will warn you that they’re going to give you a fundal massage. They’ll basically knead your belly right above the pubic bone while having fingers in your vagina to compress the uterine arteries. Unfortunately, this is not necessarily a gentle process. In order to make sure that all the excess bits and bobs are expelled from your body your healthcare professional will need to use a bit of force.

While postpartum hemorrhaging is not very common the preventative measure that is fundal massage helps to reduce the risk of it happening. Basically, if your uterus doesn’t contract on its own you may end up hemorrhaging, especially if you’ve delivered a large baby, had multiple babies, had an infection, had a history of hemorrhaging, amongst other variables. The fundal massage technique is used to simulate the contracting uterus to help your body.

It’s not pleasant, but it is important.

What do you do during a fundal massage?

Getting a fundal massage doesn’t really require much of you. You’ll likely be able to hold your baby but you may find it more comfortable to pass baby to someone else so you can put your mind in a happy place. You’ll not only be feeling the pressure of the fundal massage on your body, but you’ll also be feeling the gushing from your vagina.

Don’t worry about that last part. I promise you that your midwife or doctor has made the necessary arrangements with pads and clean up items so that your bed won’t be saturated. In fact, when all is said and done there won’t be any evidence that it even happened.

Fundal massage sounds lovely, but it's not as glamarous as you think. This is what you need to know about this necessary discomfort!

Do I have to have a fundal massage?

Postpartum hemorrhage is when a person loses 500ml to 1 liter of blood in the first 24 hours after birth. That’s a lot of blood. In fact, that’s a life-threatening amount of blood to lose. That level of blood loss can cause a dramatic drop in your heart rate leading to shock and potentially death.

1-5% of people who give birth will experience a postpartum hemorrhage. It usually happens shortly after delivery but it can happen up to two weeks postpartum.

Some common symptoms of postpartum hemorrhaging are:

-Uncontrolled bleeding

-Decreased blood pressure

-Increased heart rate

However, some of the other symptoms of postpartum hemorrhage can resemble other health concerns. If something doesn’t feel right make sure to make an appointment with your healthcare professional immediately or seek immediate medical assistance. Tune into your body. You’re going to be experiencing a lot of new and different sensations, especially if this is your first birth, but listen to your body and be in tune when something doesn’t feel right. Always err on the side of caution if you are concerned-you’re taking care of yourself and most healthcare professionals are happy to investigate further into your concerns.

None of the above sounds terribly appealing, does it? Fundal massage is the first defense towards having to deal with this both immediately after birth or in the near future. This is not something you want to have to deal with once you’ve brought baby home.

While it may not be the most glamorous massage you’ve ever gotten it’s nothing in comparison to what you just experienced while delivering your baby. Besides, you’ll be able to use your fundal massage as leverage for quite some time when you explain to your partner that you need a real, pleasant massage to negate the trauma that you endured and to make sure that your perception of what a “massage” is isn’t forever skewed!

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The best newborn baby gifts

It can be easy to get super carried away when you’re shopping for baby gifts, especially for a newborn.

Everything you pick up is really cute and tiny enough that you feel like a giant holding it which I’m positive releases some level of oxytocin that only adds to the enjoyment of shopping for baby gifts.

The thing is, as sweet and cuddly as newborn babies are they are 100% clueless to the fact that you’ve gotten them a gift. Depending on what milestone they’re at they may be able to see the gift clearly or perhaps even be able to grasp it and shove it in their mouth for a brief moment, but realistically they won’t be able to enjoy the baby gift you got them until they’re a little bit older.

This is a list of newborn baby gifts that has been compiled based on what can be given to them when they’re small but will be cherished as they grow.

Newborn gifts to be cherished forever

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Keepsake Box

This customized box can safely hold special treasures forever. A child is likely to receive some special gifts and having one place to put them all is ideal to help preserve them!
Photo credit: Primitiveweddings

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Message in a necklace

How sweet is it to have a message for baby in a necklace that Mom can wear while feeding, dressing, bathing, and holding baby? Then, the necklace that's filled with a beautiful message AND beautiful memories can be given to baby when they're a little bit grown up.
Photo credit: LunaElm

Dish set

Think of all the food you could put on here that baby will end up throwing at you!
(I'm kidding...sort of.)
Having a personalized dish set is something that will grow with your child for years and is a great keepsake for them to pull out when they have children of their own.
Photo credit:RobinBadgerPottery

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Milestone blanket

This multi-purpose blanket provides a double keepsake: it allows for photo opportunities to track baby's growth and also provides warmth and comfort for years to come!
Photo credit: blueelephantprints

Custom Star Map

What did the night sky look like during baby's birth? It's hard to say because everyone was just a bit distracted...but these guys can tell you!
This star map shows the exact location of the stars and constellations the night baby was born. Add a quote, name, and birth date and it's a perfect forever keepsake.
Photo credit: TheStarsAboveCo

Sleeper Memory Bear

Baby's clothes bring back a lot of memories. They're so tiny and sweet, and there's always a favourite that the parents had baby in a lot. Instead of throwing it in a box when baby (very quickly) grows out of it why not have it turned into something that baby can cherish for years to come? A best friend can be made and kept forever:)
Photo credit: 4MonstersMerchandise

Baby Book

Who doesn't love reading about themselves as a baby? This sweet baby book is filled with prompts for information about baby that they will look back on with joy.
Photo credit: RainbowsLollipopsArt

Piggy Bank

As baby grows they'll inevitably be given some money (or find money and try and eat it). Give them a place to put their funds and watch their savings grow as they do!
Photo credit: imdecorngifts

These are just a few newborn baby gift ideas. All of these beautifully handcrafted items will be keepsakes for years and years and can eventually passed down to the next generation. 

If you’re looking for some other newborn baby gift ideas you can also:

-make a donation to a charity in the baby’s name

-contribute to baby’s RRSP

-offer a gift certificate for lessons/classes (i.e. Parent and baby swim class)

-get MomDad, and/or older siblings a gift! They kinda did a lot to contribute to baby being here…they deserve some love, too!