This is why you should consider a home birth

This is why you should consider a home birth

All views expressed in this post are entirely my own opinions. Any reflection that I make on home birth is based on my own experiences. If you have questions please talk to your doctor or midwife. 

Are you scared to give birth?

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My first experience with birth was pretty terrifying. I was 20 years old and completely unknowing of what my body was about to endure. My baby had a congenital heart defect* that required many doctors to be present in the birthing room. I was induced by Pitocin drip because the medical staff wanted my baby born so her heart could be treated. I was basically strapped to the bed due to the monitors I was hooked up to. I was given options for pain relief but didn’t opt for them until it was too late (did you know you can’t get an epidural while you’re pushing??).

My first birth experience as sterile and clinical. I was disconnected but had no idea it could be any other way.

*My daughter was born with Double Outlet Right Ventricle, a ventricular septal defect, and a single coronary artery. She had two surgeries to correct it. You can read her story here!

When I was pregnant with my second daughter I knew I wanted something different. I did some research and planned out my birth. I was still a little shaken up by my oldest daughter and her condition and knew that I wanted this baby to be born in a hospital. My water broke a week after she was due but no labor progressed. Unfortunately, I had to be induced once again. My doctor, whom I adored during my pregnancy was there intermittently throughout the labor, however, she missed the birth because my sweet girl came rather quickly. She was delivered by two nurses.

It wasn’t quite as scary as my first birth experience, but it certainly wasn’t the warm and fuzzy one I was hoping for.

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My third pregnancy is where things changed. We moved out of the town we were living in, which meant we left my doctor. Having a baby in our new town meant one of three things: 1. Get a new doctor, 2. Go to the maternity group based in the hospital in the next town over, or 3. Get a midwife. I’d had friends who had AMAZING births with their midwife so I thought I would give it a try.

As my pregnancy progressed so did my fear of hospitals. I dealt with significant prenatal anxiety and depression, and a fear of hospitals transpired from that. The idea of having a home birth was now not an option to entertain-it was the ONLY option in my mind.

My prenatal care was exemplary. The group of midwives that I had were the most caring, nurturing, compassionate women I could ask for. I felt at ease. I felt that my views surrounding birth really mattered.

My darling third daughter was two weeks overdue. Now, to the non-pregnant person that doesn’t seem like a lot, but to anyone who’s grown a child inside of their body- two weeks is an eternity! I decided to try out the “labor cocktail” to send a clear message to my little one that she was being evicted!

My midwife was by my side from the moment I said I needed her there. She calmly guided me through the birth in the comfort of my own bed. I had all the luxuries of home…because I was in my home! My birth was calm, gentle, and quick (although not as quick as my next one would be!!). My body responded to the low-stress environment and was able to act accordingly. There were no bright lights, no beeping, people talking in the hallway. I had full control of my surroundings. I got to sleep in my own bed that night and didn’t have to worry about packing all my stuff up the following morning. I ate all my own food and didn’t get any funny looks when I asked for my placenta to be put in the fridge until I was able to take it home with me. 

My fourth home birth was the most intensely wonderfully terrifying experience I could have asked for. My labor was less than half an hour from start to finish. It’s a good thing she was a planned home birth because that could have been quite a surprise!

The home births that I personally had were the most amazing experiences I’ve ever had. It’s truly not an option for everyone, but if you and your caregiver decide that it could be an option for you I would highly recommend trying it out!

Did you have a home birth? Are you considering having one? Share your story in the comments!

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Why I no longer encourage breastfeeding

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As new mothers, we are bombarded with the slogan of “breast is best”. It’s a campaign to raise awareness surrounding breastmilk and it’s health benefits for mother and child. Breastmilk, in fact, provides all the nourishment that a child will need for the first six months. It is chock full of nutrients that can reduce sickness in a baby while also preventing various illnesses later in their lives. Breastfeeding can increase a child’s intelligence, as well as provide the mother with health benefits such as assisting her uterus to return to its pre-baby shape and reducing her risk of breast cancer.

 

Breastmilk is incredible.

Breastfeeding is incredible.

However, it’s truly not for everyone. Throughout my years as a mom, I’ve encountered many different women. I have friends who have nursed their children for four years, some who have nursed their baby for 6 months, some who tried to nurse and hated it, some who tried to nurse and could not, and some who didn’t want to try breastfeeding at all.

Do you know what all of these women have in common? They’re all caring, compassionate, involved, wonderful mothers whose best interest is always in their child.

There seems to be this certain superiority surrounding breastfeeding. Women get shamed at the playground because they’re feeding their baby a bottle of formula. There is often little thought given to why a mom may be feeding her baby formula. There are a few reasons why she may be doing this:

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-She doesn’t want to breastfeed

-She can’t breastfeed

-She won’t breastfeed

There are many reasons why a mom chooses not to breastfeed her child ranging from her not wanting to, to her having experienced sexual trauma that prevents her from emotionally being able to to her body simply not allowing it. Regardless of the reason why she chooses not to breastfeed, it is nobody’s business but her own.

I went through lactation hell each and every time I had a baby. I took expensive supplements, ate all the lactation boosting things, and was a slave to the breast pump. I also gave my babies formula because I wasn’t actually able to produce enough milk to sustain their tiny bodies. The choice to breastfeed isn’t always an easy one, nor is the choice to formula feed.

If my opinion is asked specifically regarding breastfeeding I will always highly encourage breastfeeding based on my own personal experience. I loved it. If my opinion is not asked, however, I will not encourage breastfeeding. I once was a major breastfeeding advocate. Whenever I could I would encourage breastfeeding, even when it was clear that a mom did not want to. In recent years I’ve begun to take a different approach. Now, when a mom expresses to me that she’s tried breastfeeding, doesn’t like it, and needs suggestions on how to dry up her breastmilk I don’t intervene. I simply give her suggestions (Oil of Oregano, sage tea, cabbage leaves in your bra) and words of praise and encouragement for the superb job she’s doing as a mom. She’s made a decision that she feels is best for her and her baby! Who am I to say she’s wrong?

We’re all in this together. This mom thing is hard super, ridiculously, incredibly challenging. Moms have enough to worry about with everything that comes with being a parent; nobody needs the stress of judgment and criticism on top of that! Help make sure that all women feel empowered for the way they’ve chosen to feed their babies!

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How to have a natural period

Allow me to begin by saying: there’s nothing unnatural about your period! Your period is natural. Period.

There are, however, more natural ways around going about having your period.

This post isn’t about why we have our periods. I go into that in further detail in this post. 

This post is about how AWESOME our periods really, actually are and the fun you can have with them!

If you’re keeling over in pain from your cramps right now you may not necessarily agree with this, but having your period is a pretty darn amazing thing. It’s a part of the wonder that is the way the female body works. It’s indicative of our entry into womanhood. It’s also a sure-fire sign that you’re not pregnant this month!!

Women have become very creative in the ways that they have their periods nowadays. The products available are endless and they’re suitable for all needs and lifestyles!

Here’s how to have a natural period

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Menstrual Cramps

First things first, for those poor ladies I mentioned earlier with the painful cramps, let’s chat about those.

The “Modern Day” in me says take that Tylenol, especially when you don’t have any other choice but to carry on with your day as efficiently as possible. However, the “Hippie Mama” in me says there’s a few other things you can try to have a natural period:

-Heat. Use a heating pad or a hot water bottle.

-Drink some ginger or chamomile tea. Both will help reduce pain and inflammation.

-Keep your body hydrated and nourished. You don’t want to deal with the effects of not giving your body enough. Try and limit the wine and chocolate that you’re craving SO badly right now.

Have an orgasm! There have been studies to show that having an orgasm will double your tolerance for pain temporarily. It’s worth a try, anyway!

-If you experience painful cramps on a monthly basis give acupuncture a shot. Also, make an appointment with your naturopath who can point you in the right direction for some herbs that will work for your body.

Cloth pads

Do you know what’s in the pads you buy from the drugstore? The heavily scented ones that feel like plastic? They’re filled with harmful chemicals that are rubbing up against one of the most important parts of your beautiful body.

A great alternative to disposable pads? Reusable ones!

There are LOADS of retailers that sell magnificent cloth pads. You can order them online at Etsy!

The “ick” factor with wearing a cloth pad is minimal. You can easily designate a plastic container to store them in until laundry day, or you can just toss them right in with your regular laundry!

P.S. A post-partum cloth pad makes a great gift for a new Mom! She can plop that baby in with her mesh undies and enjoy comfort (?)!

Menstrual Cups

These gems are seriously awesome. You know how when your little one finds your box of tampons and proceeds to scatter them all over the floor? I do. For some reason, the massive amount of toys they have never seems to suffice and they must play with whatever they’re not supposed to get into.

Instead of having a whole bunch of tampons that you use every month you can trade them all in for one nifty little menstrual cup. I personally have used the DivaCup and love it! It’s made of silicone, can last for 12 hours, is entirely reusable, and has two sizes; one for women who haven’t had kids and one for women who have had kids or are over the age of 30! It takes a little getting used to and maneuvering to find exactly how to make it fit well for you. I’d do a tutorial on my YouTube channel, but they don’t really condone that kinda thing.

If you’re like me and your insides have been destroyed by having children (thanks for the prolapsed bladder, kiddos!) you may find it more comfortable to actually turn the DivaCup inside out so that it doesn’t fit quite so low.

 

Organic tampons and pads

Okay, so maybe the reusable thing isn’t your jam. That’s totally cool. However, even if you aren’t a hippie you can probably appreciate that natural, organic menstrual products are safer and gentler on your body. Your vagina has done some amazing things and she deserves to have a little love shown her way. You can find different types of organic pads and tampons here.

Organic does cost a bit more, of course. However, consider how often you’re actually buying these things! Do a few things to save yourself some money to put into more natural period products! Plus, you’re dealing with everything that comes with having your period-you deserve a little luxury during that time!

 

Bonus tip: How to have your period HAPPILY!

First of all, let me say that having your period can be a massive pain in the vagina. (I would say “pain in the butt”, but I’ve written an entirely different post about that already!)

Give yourself a break, lady! Obviously, now that you have kiddos your days of laying on the couch and drowning your sorrows in a massive tub of chocolate ice cream while watching corny romance movies is over. That said, you need to allow yourself a bit of time to rest. Fill your kids in on what a period is, or simply tell them you’re not feeling well. Watch a movie with them on the couch. Sneak extra chocolate in the laundry room. Do whatever you need to do to make yourself feel a little better.

At our house, I have a “Period Dinner” once a month. Thanks to my prolapse issues the first day of my period is ridiculously uncomfortable. Years ago, the first day of my period was dubbed “period dinner day” and since then that’s exactly what we’ve done. We order take out and I get a stress free day. You could always opt to stock up on freezer meals for the occasion, as well, but sometimes take out is just what the doctor orders!

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Little things I do that make me a hippie mom

When you think of a hippie mom what do you see?

Hemp clothing? Birkenstocks? Tie-dye?

That’s certainly a stereotypical idea of what a hippie mom looks like. However, allow me to give you insight into what a modern-day hippie mom looks like:

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Yep-that’s me.

I’m a self-proclaimed modern day hippie mom. That means I drive a gas guzzling van, buy wine from Chile, head to the drive-thru when necessary, and use the earth’s precious resources to entertain my children via Netflix while I sneak Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough ice cream in the laundry room. While I do enjoy many of modern life luxuries I also maintain a pretty decently hippie-dippy lifestyle by incorporating a few key crunchy things into our lives.

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Small ways to be a hippie mom

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Teach your children to be kind to the earth

We talk about environmental issues with our kids. We share with them that we need to take care of our planet because it truly is the only one we have. We discuss waste, reduction, recycling, consumption, and alternatives to things that are harmful to the earth. They will make their own decisions when they insist that they want to buy that must-have toy with their birthday money, but at some point, your lessons may resonate with them.

Buy local

How local? As local as you can, as often as you can. If you have a farmer’s market in your community hit it up. Not only is it a great place for your kids to spend time with other folks in their community, it’s great for them to meet the farmers that have grown the food they’re (maybe) going to eat! If your children have a more personal interaction with their fruits and veggies they may be inspired to eat it. If you don’t have access to a farmer’s market and do your shopping at the supermarket take care of where the produce is coming from. If you have an option to buy apples from the country you live in vs another country, take the choice that’s more local to you!

Use reusable bags

Many places are starting to charge for plastic bags, which is a great reminder not to leave your fabric ones at home! So much of what we buy is already coated in plastic and packaging. Let’s try and reduce the amount of plastic we bring home with us! If Mom brain has struck again and you forgot the bags in the van take your plastic bags to a thrift store. They can often reuse them there. Also, check into some of your local grocery stores and see if they have a plastic bag recycling program.

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Turn off the lights

Be mindful of the resources you’re burning through. My kids are absolutely notorious for leaving every single light in the house on. We’ve started charging them $.05 for every light we have to turn off. Also, unplug anything you’re not using. Your coffee machine will not be offended if it’s unplugged until you use it again for the fifth time that day-no judgment! If protecting the environment’s resources doesn’t motivate you consider the amount of money you’ll save on your utility bills if you are conscious of your consumption!!

Use a DivaCup

Remember how we talk about reducing? It may take a bit of getting used to but a DivaCup is a reusable menstrual cup that takes place of tampons. They’re super effective, easy to use, eliminate the risk of Toxic Shock Syndrome, and are reasonably priced. Also, there are reusable menstrual pads that come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and patterns. Both of these things take some getting used to, but you’ll be reducing the amount of waste to the environment, as well as reducing the chemicals you’re putting on and in your body.

Get some reusable sandwich bags

Seriously, there are some CUTE baggies out there. Your kiddos will be thrilled to pull out their fishy crackers in one of these rad bags. Just remind them that they’re not disposable-so they most definitely should not throw these bags out!

Purchase used goods

I find everything at the thrift store. There are a few items I choose to buy new (like undies) but for the most part, everything is purchased second hand. My kids and my clothes are bought at thrift, consignment, and vintage stores. Our dishes and furniture is all pre-loved. Buying second hand negates the need for production of new goods. Less demand=less things created. Plus, you can find unique, quality items for a fraction of the cost of what it was to buy new. If you are going to buy new try and purchase good quality items that will last for a long time.

Use cloth

Cloth diapers is a commitment. I’m not here to try and convince you to do it because it’s a very personal opinion and entirely situationally dependent. However, there are a few things you can convert to cloth that won’t cause nearly the same level of work that cloth diapers will. Use cloth wipes to clean noses. Use cloth wipes for diapers. Use cloth paper towels instead of paper ones. If you’re feeling really brave, try your hand at cloth toilet paper (just for pee). Let me know how that goes. We tried it once-didn’t last long…

Get a tumbler

Coffee on the go is a very real idea for Moms. However, instead of blazing through Starbucks for your third cup o’ Jo in a paper cup, opt for a reusable tumbler. Many coffee shops will even give you a discount for using one!

Walk when you can

It’s not always possible. However, when you can walk to do your errands you should! Not only will this decrease your gas consumption, it will also decrease your children’s energy levels. It’s a win-win for you, Mom!

 

Are you a self-proclaimed “hippie mom”? What little things do you do that make you a hippie mom??

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This is what you can do about hemorrhoids after birth

There are few things that a person truly has to see to believe: a UFO, the Loch Ness monster, and the gigantic hemorrhoids after birth.

9 (million- amiright?!) or so months is ample time for a woman to become educated and informed on what her body is about to experience. She will be fascinated by the changes her body will make physically. She will be aware of the aches and pains that are normal while she grows life inside of her. She will understand the process of labor and know the calming strategies for when she delivers her precious baby.

Although, there are some things a woman will not ever be able to learn from parenting books or social media. There are facts surrounding vaginal birth that seem to be avoided by the general public. Nobody seems to want to discuss pooping on the table, how a woman’s vagina looks after birth, and hemorrhoids after birth that are so big they deserve the second name choice you had for your new baby.

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Hemorrhoids…*shiver*

Hemorrhoids often begin to rear their ugly heads when a woman is pregnant. When she’s carrying a child in her body there’s a whole lotta pressure bearing down on her backside. These nasty hemorrhoids often loiter for a few months, making their presence vaguely known here and there. It’s typically not until she’s given birth that they make their grand entrance.

When a woman gives birth she gets to celebrate the life of her child. However, she must also grieve the death of her modesty. She just had the most exposed experience of her life as she pooped on the table (it ain’t no myth) moments before showcasing a baby coming out of her vagina through her splayed legs to the group of enthusiastic spectators. She felt confident explaining to the young student doctor that he, in fact, did not freeze her properly and that she could, in fact, feel him stitching her up. She has no problem taking off her nursing gown to put her baby to her breast in front of the room of visitors.

However, no words can describe the humiliation of having a well-intentioned nurse come to check up on the painful monster that has grown from her anus.   

Her pride and ego will heal quickly once she arrives home from the hospital, but the physical pain she’s feeling in her rear end will need some tending to.

Her doctor has recommended she get a medicated topical cream, but her partner, still in shock from what was seen in the delivery room, did not hear her request to go buy some. She is forced to take matters into her own hands and use things from around the house:

How a woman can heal her hemorrhoids after birth

how to deal with hemorrhoids

-She sits on soft surfaces if and when she sits. That breastfeeding pillow she has is very multi-use.

-She drinks lots and lots of water.

-She tries to get plenty of rest.

-She eats highly fibrous foods in order to avoid constipation and keep things as smooth as possible.

-She took a lot of gear from the hospital when she left. Those uber-comfortable, uber-sexy mesh undies, mondo sized pads, and peri-bottles. She can use that to clean her entire nether region.

-She has a sitz bath whenever possible.

-She soaks a cloth in Witch Hazel and puts it between her bum cheeks to reduce swelling.

-She checks out Pinterest for other home remedies and assesses which ones would be suitable for her comfort level. A nice condom filled with ice cubes up the butt may work for some, but maybe not for her. 

She complains loudly because that provides the most relief possible and because she deserves to do that, dammit!

Due to the sensitive nature of the situation, it’s wise to be slightly cryptic in your advice to the new Mom about in order to avoid embarrassment and possible hormonal outbursts from saying the wrong thing (this ain’t no myth either). Unless she explicitly shares what a pain in the butt childbirth was for her you won’t know for sure whether hemorrhoids after birth is a condition that she’s currently suffering from. The pep talk she gives herself as she waddles into the bathroom is an indication, but it’s best not to assume.

Kindly suggest that she takes care of “yourselves” -”[her]selves” being her and her hemorrhoids. Bring her countless glasses of water while explaining that dehydration can cause fatigue (**this will work as a double positive: she will assume that your gesture implies she doesn’t appear fatigued. Go with this. Tell her how beautiful she is at the moment but don’t make eye contact with the bags under her eyes-she’ll figure out you’re lying). Bring her a food plate of dried figs, grapes, and bran muffins for “nourishment” purposes.

Whether or not you’ve had issues with massive growths on your rectum is beside the point. One can only begin to imagine the discomfort that they cause. Be secretly sympathetic while maintaining an element of smugness: you know darn well that this pain in her ass will be nothing compared to her sweet little baby when they grow into a teenager.

 

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How to make Eco-friendly 100% wool dryer balls

If you’re a Mom, you’re probably exceptionally good at laundry by now. You know what products to use and when. You’ve figured out stain removal techniques. You’ve mastered the art of exactly how much time you can let the wet laundry sit in the washer before it starts to smell.

You’re pretty confident in your laundry doing abilities. However, there’s a secret tool you may not have heard about:

A ball.

Okay, I’m kidding a bit here. Yes, a dryer ball is a ball, but it is so much more than that. Dryer balls can be made of rubber, too, but how much nicer looking is wool? Plus, with wool you can find local, organic, felted, scented dryer balls. Rubber can’t give you those things!

There are lots of great things about wool dryer balls:

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eco-friendly wool dryer balls

Are you convinced that you need these yet?

How to make 100% wool dryer balls

What you’ll need:

  • 16 oz. wool roving. Hit up your local wool store or find what you need on Etsy. Don’t worry about buying super expensive wool-merino is not necessary.
  • old stockings. Find these at the thrift store. Don’t use a nice pair-they will not survive
  • washing machine and dryer
  • scissors. Where did those kids put them?!

What you’ll need to do:

  1. Split the roving into 4 piles roughly the same size. You don’t need to be absolutely perfect on this. An approximate will do just fine.
  2. Wind the roving fairly tightly around 2 fingers a couple of times. Take wound wool off your fingers and continue to tightly wind the wool into a ball. It should be about 7” around.
  3. Grab your stocking and pack the ball in all the way to the end. Tie a knot nice and close to the ball, so as to create a casing.
  4. Repeat 3 more times.
  5. Put a couple towels in your washing machine and throw your unfelted dryer balls in with them. Put your machine settings to “Hot” and add detergent. You’ll want to run this cycle 2-3 times.
  6. Throw them in the dryer to dry along with the towels. Once they’re dry, cut them out of the stockings.
  7. If you like, add a few drops of your favorite essential oil onto the ball before you put them into the dryer. It’ll make your clothes smell lovely! Be careful with materials like satin or linen-essential oils may stain the fabric.

Voila! There you have it!

Now you have something to admire while you hide in the laundry room sneaking your chocolate ice cream. Nice job, Mom!!