The secret to raising happy children

raising happy children

Once upon a time, women worked together. They complained about their partners together (some things are timeless). They grew food together. They raised their children together.

Once upon a time, women shared feelings together. They grieved together. They anticipated together. They protested together. They celebrated together.

Once upon a time, women built each other up. They helped each other grow. The gave each other encouragement. They showed each other love.

Once upon a time, women created their village.

Today, our society is filled with women who challenge one another. They compete. They compare. They are not united.

They are missing out.

Finding a village is the most empowering thing a woman can do for herself, especially when she is a mother. Surrounding herself with other women experiencing the same spectrum of emotions gives her confidence. It allows her to feel fully understood. It helps her learn and flourish. During the times she needs to be supported, whether she needs a shoulder to cry on or someone to watch her children, she has her village to help her. This is unachievable alone. In order to maintain a healthy journey through motherhood a woman needs a solid foundation of people who will lift her. Motherhood is an incredibly challenging job, and one that shouldn’t and doesn’t need to be accomplished alone.

There is something magical about being surrounded by a village. Women are a fierce and strong force. Their energy is undeniable. A village can bring a woman from a dark, low place and set her soaring. She can be liberated from her feelings of depression and isolation; feelings that are sometimes involved in motherhood.  She is better for this. Her village is better for this. Her children are better for this. Her children will benefit, not only from having their mother in a state of fulfillment and capability, but also from witnessing the powerful effect of women uniting. Her children will learn and gain experiences from members of the village, each of whom bring something to the group.

A mother will do everything in their power to ensure that their children are getting the best life possible. She will work incredibly hard to make sure her child has the best clothing, food, house, education, and entertainment that she can provide. She would walk the ends of the earth to make her child happy.

She doesn’t have to.

The secret to raising a happy child is in the village they are raised with. By allowing herself to collaborate with a like-minded group, a woman opens herself up to an opportunity for happiness within her child and herself. The bonds she will build and the memories she will create with the other members of her village will leave a lifelong impression on her own personal growth and development, as well as the person her child grows to be. It takes a village to raise a child, but it also takes a village to raise a mother.

Mothers, raise yourself, to raise your child.

Find your village.

22 Comments

  1. Arlin

    I completely agree with you on this. We are stronger and better united. No one needs a competition of who can raise better kids or have it all together.. instead why not laugh about the silly things that go on thru our daily motherhood life over some drinks? The world needs more villages!

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    1. Admin (Post author)

      Absolutely! Thanks for reading:)

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  2. Nancy

    Love this! So true, can’t imagine motherhood without my friends:)

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    1. Admin (Post author)

      I’m so glad!

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  3. Fatima

    You hit it on the nail. Every mom needs friends!

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    1. Admin (Post author)

      It’s so important!

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  4. Jen | Moxie Maven Beauty

    I have to admit that this issue weighs on my mind a lot raising 2 girls as a single parent. You hope you are doing everything possible to help them meet their full potential while maintaining their happy, free, confident spirits. Great post!

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    1. Admin (Post author)

      From the sounds of it you’re doing a great job, Mama!

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  5. Charles

    i like this post.Its very rich with good information

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    1. Admin (Post author)

      Thank you:)

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  6. Emily

    This is so true! It’s so important to have a mom tribe! We need to unite and not compete.

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    1. Admin (Post author)

      Absolutely! Thanks for reading:)

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  7. Zen Jen

    Wow, what a powerful message. Thank you! We all need this reminder.

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    1. Admin (Post author)

      Thank YOU for reading:)

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  8. Meredith

    This is all so true! I’m so lucky to have the mom friends I do…they were my friends before I had my daughter (but they all had kids already), and having them has definitely helped me in thinking about children, how to act/react…We all need each other!

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    1. Admin (Post author)

      Yes! We can all use a little help from time to time and what better people than the ones we’re close with!

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  9. Marcie

    Finding my mommy village has been a true lifesaver. We have a program called PEPS in Seattle and I have been the best people who have remained some of my closest friends 3 years later.

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    1. Admin (Post author)

      I’m so glad to hear that:)

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  10. Working Mum

    Very true that the village is essential…great post highlighting how much we need them. My “village” are not like-minded women though, we are as different as can be and that is our strength. We build each other up, support each other, bring out each other’s strengths and for me, being so different helps me to not take myself too seriously! These women are both my rocks and my soft place to land 🙂

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    1. Admin (Post author)

      I love that. That’s so good:)

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  11. Jessi

    This is so true! It takes a village to raise a child! I know if I didn’t have my sisters I would be lost.

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    1. Admin (Post author)

      I agree!

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